When someone dies we can be totally unprepared. Even if the death is expected it can be difficult to know how to best help the children and young people we care for.
Stand-by-me offers information, advice and support to help children, young people and their families living in North Hertfordshire & Stevenage understand and manage their grief.
At what can be a confusing and emotional time, Stand-by-me offers help and support when you need it most.
The service that listens
We asked bereaved children and young people living in our area what they thought was needed. Stand-by-me was built around what they told us, from their own experience, would make a difference to other bereaved children, young people and their families. We regularly ask for feedback from the families who use our service as well as through our Young Ambassador project so we can make sure we are providing the kind of support they find most valuable.
Support in schools
Many of the young people we work with told us they would have liked more support in schools following their bereavement. The Contact-me programme is designed to give schools the help, advice and knowledge they need to support the bereaved children and young people in their care.
Currently, 75% of schools in North Herts and Stevenage have joined the Contact-me programme. If you are a school who has not yet joined and you would like more information, please visit our Contact-me for Schools page
Supported by the local community
We rely on the generous support of the local community to help us reach bereaved children and young people in our area. Every penny raised helps us to run more programmes, fund our website, train more of our wonderful volunteers and expand our service to meet a continually growing need.
Have a look at this short video to see how volunteering with Stand-by-me can change the life of a bereaved young person.
Whether you would like to make a donation, apply to volunteer with us or learn more about our fundraising, head over to our Support Us pages to find out more.
Young Ambassadors welcome Rickshaw Challenge to Hitchin
The Stand-by-me Young Ambassadors joined the people of Hitchin to welcome the BBC Children in Need Rickshaw Challenge as they made their way through the Market Square on Friday on the last leg of their journey.
Stand-by-me Project Manager, Karen Stanton said: “BBC Children in Need have generously supported our service over the years, so it was great to be able to show them our support along with our Young Ambassadors, as they rode through the community we work with.”
Many people find it hard to know what to say to someone who has been bereaved. Perhaps we worry we might say the wrong thing or perhaps that we will say something to upset them. This year's Children's Grief Awareness Week aims to help everyone talk about bereavement without worrying. The theme of 'Lost4words' During the Week, we'll be encouraging the sharing of ideas on social media about how people can help grieving children and their families - even if they think they don't know what to say.
Our groups are divided into Primary and Secondary age groups and run for 4 to 6 weeks plus a catch-up group, usually on Saturday mornings. If you would like to find out more, please contact us
Under 8's group
Starting November 2019
Starting January 2020
Starting March 2020