When someone dies we can be totally unprepared. Even if the death is expected it can be difficult to know how to best help the children and young people we care for.
Stand-by-me offers information, advice  and support to help children, young people and their families living in North Hertfordshire & Stevenage understand and manage their grief.

At what can be a confusing and emotional time, Stand-by-me offers help and support when you need it most.

The service that listens
We asked bereaved children and young people living in our area what they thought was needed. Stand-by-me was built around what they told us, from their own experience, would make a difference to other bereaved children, young people and their families. We regularly ask for feedback from the families who use our service as well as through our Young Ambassador project so we can make sure we are providing the kind of support they find most valuable.
Support in schools
Many of the young people we work with told us they would have liked more support in schools following their bereavement. The Contact-me programme is designed to give schools the help, advice and knowledge they need to support the bereaved children and young people in their care.
Currently, 75% of schools in North Herts and Stevenage have joined the Contact-me programme. If you are a school who has not yet joined and you would like more information, please visit our Contact-me for Schools page
Supported by the local community
We rely on the generous support of the local community to help us reach bereaved children and young people in our area.  Every penny raised helps us to run more programmes, fund our website, train more of our wonderful volunteers and expand our service to meet a continually growing need.
Have a look at this short video to see how volunteering with Stand-by-me can change the life of a bereaved young person.
Whether you would like to make a donation, apply to volunteer with us or learn more about our fundraising, head over to our Support Us pages to find out more.
Upcoming groups

Our groups are divided into Primary and Secondary age groups and run for 4 to 6 weeks plus a catch-up group, usually on Saturday mornings. If you would like to find out more, please contact us

    Primary Group

  • Starting January 2020

  • Starting April 2020

    Secondary Group

  • Starting March 2020

  • Starting June 2020


A huge thank you to North Herts Crematorium.


Stand-by-me Project Manager, Karen Stanton and Fundraising Trustee, Shirley Avery were delighted to meet with North Herts Crematorium manager, Paul Howard to receive a cheque for £8000. This fantastic amount was raised from donations to the crematoruim and will enable us to support even more bereaved children and young people in 2020

Kingshott performs a perfect Panto for SBM


Staff from Kingshott School performed their annual pantomime in aid of Stand-by-me and raised a whopping £1200.

Click the link for the full story and more pics.


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