Covid19 - how to cope with grief when everything is changing
If your family is bereaved during this difficult time, it can be particularly hard to support the children and young people you care for. You may be struggling with your own grief as well as dealing with the effects of being isolated from other family and friends. You may also be worried that you dont have the answers to the kinds of questions your child is asking. We have put together some information and links you may find useful. We will do our best to keep updating this page as the situation develops
New book helps explain coronavirus to children
Explaining the current situation to young children, without frightening, or confusing them, is a real concern for many parents & carers.
Now, a new digital book, illustrated by renowned children's author & illustrator Axel Scheffler, has been created to help primary-school aged children understand the virus and what is being done to help control it. The book is free to download, so click here for your copy.
When you cant be there to say goodbye
Funerals are an important way for us to mark the death of someone we care about, but current guidelines around social distancing mean that gatherings such as funerals cannot happen in the usual way. This means that many funerals will go ahead without family and friends present.
This will be hard for everyone, but especially for children and young people who may struggle to understand what has happened to their loved one and why they are not allowed to say goodbye.
Funeral directors are working hard to involve families in as many ways as possible, without them actually being present. This could include live streaming the service or taking pictures of flowers, the coffin or the place where the service is being held. Visit National Association for Funeral Directors for more help around arranging a funeral at this time.
Many families are choosing to hold a memorial service as soon as it is safe to do so. You may want to involve your child in helping to plan the memorial so they can add their own special memories. But in the meantime, it can be helpful to create your own opportunities with your child to remember the person who died.
Talk together and share memories of the person who died
If you have a garden or even just a sunny windowsill, plant some seeds or flowers together in their memory
Look at photos together
Create a memory box
Talk to your child about how they would like to remember the person who died - they may have some ideas of their own.
Making time to remember together
Free guides for bereaved families
A new series of guides have been created to help support people that have lost a loved one to coronavirus, or they have died during lockdown because of other reasons.
There are 3 bereavement guides available:
All of the guides are free to download. Click on the titles to get your copy.
Useful links and resources
At such a difficult and uncertain time, it can be helpful to know that there are organisations and resources out there to offer a bit of extra advice and support. We have listed just a few of them below and will continue to add more in the coming weeks
Information and support including advice around talking to children about Coronavirus
Website packed with information and advice for Adults and Children around grief and loss. Also, a free helpline for bereavement support
This national organisation has put together Covid-19 pages focusing on supporting bereaved children during the virus outbreak
Pages designed to support young people’s mental health during this time of uncertainty. It contains advice for young people, parents & carers as well as schools & colleges. There is also a fantastic online resource specifically for young people on their dedicated website called on-my-mind
Cruse has created a wealth of information to support those bereaved through Covid-19
Information and a short video plus lots of help and support around bereavement at this time
Information and advice on a range of related topics
Webchat support available via their online counselling 'Griefchat' service.