When someone we care about dies we can find it hard to understand what happens to us.


Grief is the name we give to all of the things that we think and feel as we try to make sense of what has happened.

It feels nasty when it is happening and you are missing the person who died but – it is normal. Everyone grieves but not everyone shows grief in the same way.

If we do not understand what grief is and how it affects us we can become worried and frightened. It is good to talk about how we are feeling with people who care about us but sometimes it is hard to know what to say and how to describe what is happening to us.

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If you are feeling worried, it is always a good idea to speak to an adult you trust

How SBM can help

Stand-by-me Young Ambassador, Harvey, tells us how coming to our groups has helped him.

We're here to listen

We know that things may be feeling unsettled and frightening at the moment.


If you are feeling worried, please get in touch and one of our team will be happy to listen to you and talk about how you are feeling.


If you are a child or young person please ask your parent or carer to contact us at


or by phone on 07469 255139 or 07469 255163. We will then arrange to speak with you. If we are unable to answer straight away, leave us a message with your name and number and we will call you back.  


Alternatively, you can telephone

  • Childline on 0800 1111

  • Winston’s Wish on 08088 020021.