Everyone's experience of grief is different. That means there is no one-size-fits-all solution to what can help. However, it can help to know that you're not alone.
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We spoke to some of the young people we have worked with to find out what they felt would have helped them. Here's some of the things they told us:
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What can help?
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Remember to take care of yourself. Make time to rest, exercise, eat and sleep
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Talk about the person who has died. Sharing your memories can help you remember the times you spent together.
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Contact an organisation such as Stand-by-me so you can meet other young people who have had similar experiences.
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Feelings can be confusing. You might feel sad, numb, angry or even relieved. These are your feelings and whatever you are experiencing it's OK to let yourself go with it .
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Let people know what you need. Whether you want them to just sit with you, give you a hug, listen to you or give you some space.
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You may think everyone expects you to feel sad all the time but don't feel guilty about laughing or having fun. It doesn't mean you don't care any more.
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Remember that grief isn't a straight line. Some days will feel more difficult than others and just because time has passed doesn't mean you're over it.