When someone dies we find it hard to understand the feelings and emotions that happen to us. All of these strange things are called grief.

Image by Eric Ward

Grief affects us in many ways but it can feel as if our mind and body are out of control-especially soon after the death, or sometimes we find we are emotionally frozen.

Even though grief is normal and natural it can feel very frightening and confusing. Learning more about what is happening to us, what to expect and what can help, can make things feel less scary; helping us to know we are normal and OK and that we are not alone.

We hope that these pages will give you an idea of what to expect and help you feel that you are not alone. We will also give you some ideas about how to remember the person who died and ways of feeling better on your sad days.



This video was created by one of our young ambassdors to show what it is like to attend one of the Stand-by-me groups

Tell us what you think – We would love to get your feedback and ideas on how we can make our services better. Contact us  to let us know what you think.

If you are a bereaved young person experiencing a crisis, the Winston’s Wish Crisis Messenger text service offers free, 24/7 support: Text WW to  85258 (available 24/7)


For Urgent help

Stand-by-me Young Ambassadors, James and Charlotte, tell us how coming to our groups has helped them.

How SBM can help
We're here to listen

We know that things may be feeling unsettled and frightening at the moment.


If you are feeling worried, please get in touch and one of our team will be happy to listen to you and talk about how you are feeling.


If you are a child or young person please ask your parent or carer to contact us at


or by phone on 07469 255139. 


Alternatively, you can telephone

  • Childline on 0800 1111

  • Winston’s Wish on 08088 020021.